Tuesday, October 6, 2009

I find blogging to be interesting.
I find it fun.
I find it sometimes a bit confusing.
(ya know when someone leaves a comment and you are just stumped..then you e-mail them and realize that your brain is just slow)

The thing is that in our blogs we can create ourselves to be whatever we want.
It's actually a bit scary.

We can make it out like our marriages are complete bliss.
(i have been guilty of this myself, remember....I usually only post the good stuff....I tend to leave the hard stuff out. I do believe that when I am ready I will give you all the dirt.)

We can make it like our kids are perfect.
(this one I am not guilty of....I would be more than happy to tell you that my kids drive me bonkers sometimes)

We can talk about how much we love parenting when in reality the children are just tokens.

We can glamorize our lives.

We can transform it into something it just isn't.

I mention it because I have seen it time and time again.

I just want everyone to know that I am going to work realllly hard to just be me.
I am going to work hard at letting you see my heart (doesn't mean that it will always be pretty)
I find it hard to do anything other than that.

It kind of reminds me of middle school.
You wear a different hat with each different person you are with.
You so badly want the attention so you are willing to sell yourself out.
When I was in middle school I would have cut my right arm off to be popular.
I think back on that and I cringe.

I want to stand up as a woman and let the world know who I am.
I don't want to let the world dictate to me who I should be.

I'm just plain 'Ol Maisy.
Trying to make it through this thing called life.
Trying to make it without too many scratches and scars.

So, with all that being said....I'm just going to ask you tread lightly when making friends online.
Remember, the person on the other end of the friendship typically lives hundreds of miles away.
You can't possibly really know how they are.
They could just be what they want you to THINK they are!

Have a great Tuesday!
Hope the sun is shining and the air is crisp where you are.
Here, it is rainy and cold.
Sounds like a great book day to me~


tara said...

I agree so much Amy! I think as we grow older we are more apt to think twice before accepting a friendship we aren't sure about...we have more to loose i suppose! Blogging is a wonderful place and has done wonders for me on a personal level....thank you for being YOU...I love that about you...I know what I am getting! :) Your weather sounds fab by the way!

Thena said...

I never dreamed I would get so addicted to blogging. lol The friendships that are forming. The one thing I have always looked for in anyone is honesty. I have alot of respect for people that are the same no matter where you see them. Whether it be in church on Sunday, or on the ball field on Friday.

Kitty said...

well said!

Tracy is ... Loving Pretty Things said...

This makes me sad....only for selfish reasons....

This blog world has actually created the perfect environment for me to be...ME.

However - I can see how it can also be a fairyland where you can create a perfect princess ruling her impeccably clean castle with perfect little children with their polished crowns always saying "Yes please".

I hope that you are encouraged to be YOU. Whoever you are - and know that if NO ONE ELSE - I will be here to hug you. Unless you confess you're a mass murderer, there's nothing you could say/confess/reveal about yourself that would make me not like you.

HUGS to you, Ms. Maisy.


southerninspiration said...

I agree with you, too, but I just think it is TOO MUCH WORK to try to portray and keep up something that isn't REAL!! lol....
I'm just lazy I guess, but I just wanna be me......I'll stand beside your real self, Maisy, anyday....;)


A.Love said...

it's funny--cuz i feel like i really just lay it out there--kinda what got me in trouble at the old stomping ground.
it totally made me question every word i wrote at my new home until a few weeks ago.
now i feel more me than ever and not worried about what people will think.
what ya read is what ya get :)
you rock and guess what--i love the good and "ugly" of the heart you share because I think real is actually refreshing :)

Melissa Miller said...

Sounds good Amy! I understand and I'll be here reading along. I have so many private issues I haven't shared on my blog yet either and don't know if I ever will. Maybe my life seemed "perfect" to another blogger because she actually left me a comment saying she hoped nothing "happened" to my husband. That really scared me for someone to say something so heartless. Yikes!

~Blessings, ~Melissa :)

Lisa said...

I think like you and me we try to share the good an great stuff the fluff. Not really acting like the bad never happens we just don't want to talk about it here. I try and share some of the more real things like a friend dying and a baby cousin having cancer. But Not that my Mother lives with me and drives me crazy daily. And my little sister and her family live across the street and well it would be nice if it was great. But I blog to not deal with it all the time. NOT to hide from you all that it happens. We are all ultimately happy and thankful for our families and no one really wants to listen to us complain all the time. I do think people can put on a front but they are probably doing it for their neighbors, friends, coworkers and even families too. I guess it takes longer to figure it out online. Sorry you are seeming to have such a time. I really enjoy visiting your blog. You seem to take life as it comes and roll with the punches! You go girl! and don't forget to enjoy your blogging!
Hugs, Lisa

Backyard Candle Co. said...

I couldn't agree more! Sometimes these all to perfect blogs make me feel horrible about myself cause that isn't how my life is, all peaches and cream. I sometimes feel as if I don't measure up. I am learning to let that go and just be me and not worry about whether I have 1 comment or 30. It does sometimes seem like a popularity contest.

jennie w. said...

I get in big trouble from my husband for being too honest. He likes to keep up the veneer of perfection. Too bad for him!

Anne Marie said...

I just assume (because I don't know them in 'reality') that their blogs are who they really are....

but we ARE always constantly changing, whether we post about it or not.......sometimes, it's just hard to put it into words....kwim?

boy; I sure hope I'm not one of those commenters that after you read it you're like ?huh?

The Kramer Angle said...

I completely understand what you're saying and totally agree!

Sarah said...

Very well said Amy! Other than a few girls in blogland I actually browse occasionally and more than anything try to take fun helpful hints and of course decorating knowledge. Otherwise, I try not to compare my life to the internet world of friendships.
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Lou Cinda said...

Oh how my life is far, far, FAR from perfect! It is what it is and I am what I am!

Love your blog!

Have a great day!!

Lou Cinda :)

Jen R. said...

I agree 100%. Rock on sister! There are MANY people who show only the side they want us to see while underneath it lurks something else. I am so glad YOU are YOU!!!!!

littlebyrd said...

Oh - totally right on. I like "plain old Maisy" but I would call you fabulous Maisy!! Thanks for being you ;)

Blasé said...

That's right, Maisy Daisy. Keep it Real, baby!

Lissa said...

yes! I agree! I try to be me. But some things are not for the blog world as we know. I enjoy the "blog" friends! But alas, they are 100 miles or more away... It would be much more fun if all of us girls could catch a chick flick on a Friday night and then grab a bite to eat. Don't you think?

Dogwood said...

Thanks for the reminder to "be real." At the age of 66 years old, I have gotten to the stage in life where it is fun to be myself and not pretend to be someone or something else. I am who I am. I have also learned to set boundaries. Like has its "good and bad"~"ups and down"~along with hicups, burps and farts. Have a nice evening.

LuLu & Co. said...

i totally get what you are saying, be you, it's the thing i love about your blog. Enjoy your book!!!

Miss Gracie's House said...

This is so, so true...and your post on the *numbers*...it is all very intimidating and easy to be *fake* Sometimes it really does feel like high school all over again and trying to be in with the *cool* girls. Anyway, you said it all very well and I enjoyed getting caught up on your posts. Keep being you!

Jeanneoli said...

I agree. Can you imagine the energy it takes to create a false perception???? In the long run people will always be happier if they are honest...and so will their friends. Glad you are back to blogging.

Christina said...

Good thoughts for this Tuesday morning. I always wonder if people would really want to see all the imperfection in my life. Depressing! : ) It is a balance I'm sure. I think being as honest as you can without too much angst. It's kinda like what Lisa said in the comments. I blog to get away from the negative stuff. Not to hide it, just not to dwell on it. I suffer from severe depression, sometime debilitating. It is something to get away from. To be pleased that a project is finally done even when it has been a long time in coming, or a recipe finally made or something that made me smile can make someone else smile. Whew! Lots to think about.

City Farmhouse said...

Well said! I couldn't agree more. It so easy to believe what you read. I find that my favorite blogs are the ones that can make me laugh, cry, make me think or touch me in someway and typically those blogs are written by people who don't take themselves so seriously. If a person isn't being real or true then they are really only hurting themselves.
Have a great night!

Carole~Maynard Greenhouse said...

This is the first time at your blog. I love that you're so honest. I think about it all the time when I'm reading a blog. Is this really for real? Is their life really that wonderful? Are they holding back? Well I guess I've answered my own question!!!
I look forward to reading more of your honesty!

LillySue said...

Wow, I have been thinking about this a lot lately. It feels so wierd to never mention my husband when so many blogs sing such great songs about theirs. Mine is a total butthead and we are at the end of it all, but how do you explain all that? Does anyone really want to wade thru that with you???? I feel like I need to be the real me but the sunny side keeps pushing the cloudy side outa the way!

the wild raspberry said...

so true miss maisy....
glad your computer is up and running again.
have a wonderful weekend~